Teena Rose
operates a prominent and professional resume writing service, Resume to Referral. She’s
authored several career
books, including "20-Minute Cover Letter Fixer" "How to Design, Write, and Compile a Quality Brag Book" and "Cracking the Code to Pharmaceutical Sales."
Editor's
Note: In this article, the author talks that two sided coin, office gossip.
If you’ve
ever tuned into the hit show “The Office,” whether it’s the BBC version that’s written and directed
by Ricky Gervais or the NBC knock off with Steve Carell, you know that gossip in the workplace is as common as coffee breaks
and the pointless meeting. The unique comedy is a tongue-in-cheek, documentary-style series that points out the humor and
banality of the 9-to-5 existent in the working world of white-collar professionals.
For the sake
of comedy, the show takes jabs at the office environment with inappropriate remarks and petty behaviors, which include rumor
mongering and backstabbing. Office gossip is something you certainly wouldn’t want to be a part of if you’re the
target of the insufferable office manager David Brent, played by Gervais. But in the real world, is office gossip really that
insufferable? Like many human behaviors, there are two sides to the coin.
We are a world
of gossipers. There’s little doubt about that. A recent study in Great Britain found that one in five people in the United Kingdom use instant messaging at work to spread office
gossip. In most cases, the word is thought of in a negative manner, as in Walter Winchell’s famous quote that “Gossip
is the art of saying nothing in a way that leaves practically nothing unsaid.” In their book, Gossip: Ten Pathways to
Eliminate It from Your Life and Transform Your Soul,” authors Laurie Palatnik and and Bob Burg refer to gossip as a
“fired bullet – once you hear the sound, you can’t take it back.”
The authors recognize that gossip has been around since human came into existence, and continues to be “a popular
but destructive pastime.”
But is gossiping
always bad? Many agree that spreading rumors about the personal affairs of others is out of line, but gossip is also a vehicle
that can help pass along vital corporate and workplace information. Since companies and supervisors tend to keep delicate
matters under wraps, hearing important news from the office grapevine is sometimes the only forum employees have. Conversely,
using that same grapevine can work in your favor. It can be used to relay success on a project, or, when the direct approach
isn’t the best approach, get the word out to a fellow employee that you’re not happy with his or her conduct.
Women traditionally
are associated with gossiping more than men, but the fact is that both sexes are involved in the behavior. It’s just
that men and women tend to gossip about different things. But when it comes to office-related issues, both men and women have
a stake in the rumor mill when the news directly affects the employers or company.
There are, of
course, Do’s and Don’ts when it comes to taking part in office gossip. The first is to give and take it in small
doses. Nobody wants to spend much time with or invest too much in the lead gossiper.
Keep the gossip
on a professional level and work-related, like if you’ve heard of pending layoffs or a hiring freeze. Don’t result
to petty attacks on co-workers. Always consider the source of the gossip and the motivation behind them. If the person you
hear them from has zero credibility or is passing along harmful personal information about someone else, take the high road
and don’t pass along the gossip.
Finally, if you’re
caught gossiping about something and are called on the carpet by a friend, co-worker or boss, own up to it. If you’re
willing to risk spreading gossip then you should be able to stand up to the heat and explain your intentions.
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Editor's
Note: So, even though some gossip may be harmful, it can also be used productively.
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